- Do you change your behaviour because you’re frightened of your partner’s reaction?
- Is your partner jealous and possessive?
- Do you feel like you're walking on egg shells?
- Do you feel controlled, or isolated?
Refuge can support you
What is domestic abuse
Domestic abuse can take many forms. Learn to spot the signs.
Your rights and options
Find out more about what support is available for you and your children.
Supporting a survivor
If you’re worried about someone you care about, learn more about how you can support them.
How we can support you
Find out more about how Refuge can help you.
What is it like to
contact the Helpline?
If you are in an emergency situation, please call 999
We are a team of highly-trained, female advisers. We won’t judge you or tell you what to do; we are here to listen.
We will empower you to understand your options and support you to make any decisions about the future.
We can support you to increase your safety. We can help you find a refuge place, or other specialist services.
We can talk in confidence, in many different languages, 24-hours a day, 365 days a year, for as long as you need.
“When I called the Helpline, I was in absolute despair. I was lost and terrified, but the Helpline adviser made me feel so empowered. She gave me the strength to leave my husband and go to the police the following day. That phone call saved my life. Without Refuge, I wouldn’t be here today.”
“When I spoke to friends, they didn’t really understand what I was trying to say. But the moment I spoke to the Helpline, they understood what I was talking about. They helped me realise this was a thing that happens to people. It made me feel sane. The Helpline adviser made me believe it is possible to change things.”
“After I left my abusive partner, I used to beat myself up with guilt. Getting specialist support made me realise I am not alone. I started going to a support group. One woman started talking about what had happened to her kids. She was still standing strong – ‘that’s what I can do’, I thought. She was an inspiration.”
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